How We get in touch with our feelings

It is spiritual experience to feel through having a loved one die. A brother in law shared a few moments with us last night. He was feeling immense pain. He only allowed its expression by connecting it to recent actions that were taken by one of his sisters. At a couple of points in the conversation he felt invited to connect his feelings to my comments. He expressed himself very passionately. Luckily, Greg offered that we wrap up and go to bed since we were all tired and it was late. Well this morning my mental processor does feel refreshed. I am learning some deep lessons in how we process emotion. This dear brother needs a place to deal with his feelings. I recognize his inability to process his emotion without creating new and valid reasons. It is not the actions that we or others take that are the object of our emotions. I am learning that our emotions are the object of our emotions.

It wasn't easy for him to say how he felt about himself and describe his feelings about the loss of his father. But it was easier and more compelling for him to express anger, rage, and frustration because of the actions of his sister. Those feelings seemed out of proportion to his sisters actions. But they make more sense when applied to the loss of his father.