So, I've been dealing with some trauma bonds. It's this awesome thing you can do when you want to figure out why you keep repeating the same mistakes over and over. What you do is think about how the current stress mirrors a past stress. Then you identify the under 'lying' problem of the original stress. Then you reparent yourself by saying 'gee, that's a nasty boo boo, do you want a bandaid and a hug?' Then you grieve long enough to feel better and then you are free from that trauma bond. Warning: Side effects include strong reactions from key family members when you vacillate in your resolve. This can cause a repeat of the trauma bond at which point you may have enough material to submit to a TV station for a soap opera.
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haha... mom, I love you.
Hi Emily,
Hope you don't mind that I've come across your blog. I have thoroughly enjoyed it! This post made me laugh a bit and then think a LOT! Breaking old patterns is SO hard. And sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. I guess, for me, the thing is to keep trying. Breaking old patterns, breaking old habits (the bad ones anyway!), and trying to come out on top. And for me...any progress is praiseworthy and should be met with love and congratulations!! So, congratulations to YOU for all the of life traumas you have overcome.
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